Re:Did I wrong him by telling him my past?

GIFT, the past must always be told to save the future and to avoid a blast from the past. A man who truly loves you will overlook your past for the sake of love. Secondly, the second brother that ran away on account of being told of the past was not really led by God, but by his carnal desire. My advice for you is to get serious with God by living a life devoid of sin rather than contemplating suicide. Keep praying to God and your best suitor will come due time. The virtues of prayer and obedience, coupled with patience to God will help you to avoid marrying the wrong husband, 070338887191.

Gift, I will advise you not to terminate your life. I pray that very soon you will get your man. Don’t add more sin by terminating your life, with God all things are possible, 09030306599.

Gift, it is a complex world we live in. There is no one without a past, but past should be allowed to remain in the past. Moreover, it is futile to give people the information that they don’t need. Certain issues should be kept in wraps so far such will not bring any harm to anybody. I advise you should go for prayers both to avert and prevent such occurrences in the future. When another man meets you, do not relate the past to him. Committing suicide is not the solution. Life must go on, Folake Aremu, Oyo.

Gift, I want to believe you are a child of God. Committing suicide is not the way out of any problem. All you need now is prayers. You should not blame yourself as you need deliverance from a spirit tormenting your matrimonial life. I will also advise you not to go into marriage until you are delivered from that spirit of anti-marriage, Joel, Lokoja, Kogi State, 07080881868.

Gift, you need to go to a sound spiritual church where you will be told what to do to get out of this problem, 08157957131.

Gift, you did not do anything wrong by telling the runaway man about your past. You will have to look for a true prophet of God in order to know where things went wrong, Femi, 09093199229.

Gift, you don’t need to kill yourself by committing suicide. What you need to do now is to go for deliverance. There is a hidden covenant operating in your life. After the deliverance, you will be automatically connected with a man designed for you by God, Rev Dr, AD Ojedayo, Eruwa, Oyo, 07069350351.

Gift, you did nothing wrong while the last thing you should contemplate is suicide. Though I am married, but marriage is not a do-or-die affair. Luckily, at 27, all hope is not lost. My second son married his wife who was 32 years five years ago. Elizabeth, 08055256192.

Gift, please, regarding the so-called suitors as the caricature of the real man coming soon. They have committal-phobia. Avoid any nasty act whose attendant consequences would be too much to bear on your relations etc. Your past is a narration of your present ordeal and not a crime. I see it as a confession we all crave for religiously. Indeed, it is a blessing and a lesson. The situation would have been worse if you had tried to trap them with pregnancy. So, be patient, prayerful, purposeful and always be of good cheer. We are all in a state of influx, Bright O, 08139152222.

Gift, why will you be telling people your past? By doing so, you are causing problems for yourself. For me, I don’t need your past, but your present. An armed robber can become a Pastor or Imam. If you want to live long, learn to keep your mouth shut, Moses Adebayo, Lokoja, 08050343511.

Gift, look for a living church, join the workforce of the church and discuss with your pastor. The right man will locate you, Debra A, 08055631749.

Gift, I will advise you to tell whoever claims to love you your past because when he later finds out it might be hell. We guys are what we are, if possible we don’t want a lady with a past and that is not possible. Even we guys have our past as well. Don’t give up, someone will definitely love you with your past, 08131397556.

Gift, the guy is immature, [email protected].

Gift, you are not getting it right. Telling a guy your past is a big mistake. People don’t understand the meaning of past in a relationship. Your past is not going to affect your new relationship, why should you tell him? I want all ladies to understand this, men want to know what they can benefit from you, not what will scare them. Some past issues can be scary because of the way they think. My advice for you is to keep your past to yourself since it is not going to affect your partner. Please, your  past is past, don’t let it allow it to destroy  your future, Kadri Hafisat <[email protected]>

Gift, life indeed is bigger than marriage. Your life is bigger than those two men that fled after proposing to you. Based on my faith, belief and perception/ perspective:”all things work together for good to them that love God.” Nothing on earth happens without a cause, it is only when the cause of a thing is identified that solution can be provided. There was a theory I came across while I was in the university, it is called reality theory and before it will solve someone’s problem, the person must agree that he or she is the cause of the problem. Though that theory may not work here in Nigeria because we always blame others or circumstances for our problems.

Initially, when I encountered that theory, I did not agree with the proponent. As I am deeply exposed to the Bible where it is stated that ‘as a man thinks in his heart, so is he’. Job caused his problem as he said what ‘I am afraid of has happened to me’. Quantum physics and quantum mechanics have scientifically proven that we are the creator of our lives’ experiences either positive or negative. That is why the Bible counsels us to guide our heart with all diligence for out of it flow the issues of life. That theory is right indeed.  Gift, there is the likelihood that you are being spiritually manipulated, but those spiritual manipulators are not as strong as your thoughts, belief and perception. How long or how soon you will overcome this challenge depends on your thoughts, belief and perception towards it. If you see it as a challenge that you will overcome by the grace of God, it will be. You need deliverance, believe that you will meet your man for marriage this year. Give your life to Jesus and you will soon testify to God’s goodness, Eugene ogbuehi”

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